{"id":3276,"date":"2018-10-16T01:10:28","date_gmt":"2018-10-16T01:10:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.styledeals.co.uk\/blog\/why-you-shouldnt-hug-your-colleagues\/"},"modified":"2018-10-16T01:10:28","modified_gmt":"2018-10-16T01:10:28","slug":"why-you-shouldnt-hug-your-colleagues","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.styledeals.co.uk\/blog\/why-you-shouldnt-hug-your-colleagues\/","title":{"rendered":"Why you shouldn’t hug your colleagues"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Whatever happened to the simple handshake at work? asks author Alison Green, and the creator of the workplace advice column Ask a Manager.<\/p>\n

You’re greeting a colleague who you haven’t seen in a while – and suddenly, without warning, they’re enthusiastically opening their arms and heading in for a hug. <\/p>\n

Hugging used to be reserved for close family and friends, but it’s been infiltrating professional contexts for a while now, leaving huggers delighted and the rest of us shrinking back in the hopes that we can avoid unwanted embraces.<\/p>\n

Hugging hasn’t become the norm in every industry, but there are entire fields where it’s common in both greetings and goodbyes, especially as workplaces become increasingly informal.<\/p>\n

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That can be odd for those of us who aren’t huggers, or who aren’t huggers at work. And the fact that different people have different preferences around hugging – and that there aren’t any clear-cut rules for when you’re expected to hug or how to avoid a hug – makes the whole endeavour fraught with awkwardness and peril.<\/p>\n

We could all benefit from a universal code of conduct for hugging at work. Of course, if I wrote that code, it would just say “don’t hug colleagues, end of story.” <\/p>\n

Perhaps I’m a curmudgeon, but really, isn’t it better to err on the side of not making someone uncomfortable with unwanted physical contact? <\/p>\n

That’s especially true at work, where it can be hard for people to say “no, I’d really rather not hug” because of a fear of seeming cold or unfriendly to people we work with. <\/p>\n

So huggers would do well to remember that their preference for hugging is trumped by a colleague’s preference not to have that type of physical intimacy with a co-worker! Not all of us wish to enter the enveloping arms of our colleagues.<\/p>\n

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But unfortunately, people who love a good hug tend to assume that everyone else is a hugger too, and are strangely oblivious to the legions of us who instead take great comfort in physical boundaries when we’re at work. <\/p>\n

Some people push hugs even when they’re clearly unwelcome, perhaps on the theory that the power of their warm embrace will melt the boundaries of even the crankiest among us. <\/p>\n

So what do you do if you’re a non-hugger marooned in an office of huggers? Or if you find yourself greeting someone awkwardly, unsure if they’re about to go in for a hug or not? <\/p>\n

One time-honoured strategy is to quickly and pre-emptively stick out your hand – making it clear that this is going to be a handshake situation. If you’re worried that that will seem chilly or standoff-ish, then pair it with a very warm greeting, making it clear that you’re happy to see the other person.<\/p>\n

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Or, you can mention that you’re just getting over a cold and wouldn’t want to get the person sick. Although that really only works with people you don’t see frequently, since you can’t use that excuse over and over. <\/p>\n

But it’s also okay to come out and declare yourself a hug-free zone! There’s nothing wrong with saying, “I’m not really a hugger, but it’s great to see you.” Let’s band together and reclaim our personal space! <\/p>\n

And for all the huggers out there: when you’re at work, by all means, great people warmly, look delighted to see them, and take genuine interest in how they’re doing. Warmth and friendliness are great! <\/p>\n

We could use more of that. But unless you know for sure that the person you’re greeting is a hugger themselves, draw the line at physical embrace.<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n


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